“That’s man’s work.”
“That’s wimmin’s work.”
“My husband/wife takes care of that.”
Sound familiar? There are still many people out there who think in terms of gender roles when they decide what skills they will and will not learn, or teach their children. My own mother used to tell me that it was inappropriate for a woman to use power tools, so I didn’t ever use power tools until I was on my own. I still know so many people who rely on their husbands for so many things that, if their husband or wife isn’t around, they’re helpless.
In this day and age, so many of us live on our own for a myriad of reasons. Maybe you’re still in college and just starting out on your own. Maybe your spouse is out on a business trip. Maybe they’ve passed away. Maybe you’re divorced or separated. If any of these apply to you, guess what? It doesn’t matter what gender you are, you need to know how to run your life. Sadly, American school systems are so pathetic that things like what this blog talks about aren’t taught in school, and maybe your parents didn’t teach you either.
What’s more, personal agency is the mother of self-respect. Learning to do for yourself breeds confidence, self-esteem, and independence. It is part of being an emotionally and mentally healthy human being. Even two-year-olds know this when they scream “Me do! Me do!” at their parents.
This blog aims to show you how to run a household and manage your affairs – the things that are popularly termed “adulting”. It will discuss everything from cooking and laundry to how to do basic electrical and plumbing work to what an investment is and how to save for retirement. It’s written by a pair of women, both of whom have lived independently for two decades or more. We’ve seen a lot, and we’ve seen what happens when adulting doesn’t happen. Hint: it’s a disaster.
If there’s something you’d like us to discuss specifically, please leave us a comment and ask! If we don’t know, we’ll say so and point you to resources on how to do that thing. If we do know, we’d be happy to talk about it.